To be happy, you’ve got to start with the right questions.

When you know how you want to feel, you’ll start making choices and taking actions to bring those very feelings into your life.

So how do we get there? We start with asking (and answering) these 4 questions.

  1. How do you want to feel?
  2. What makes you feel this way?
  3. What prevents you from feeling this way?
  4. What are you willing to do to feel this way?

Some examples to get you on your way…

How do you want to feel?

Humble, appreciative, kind, understanding, flexible, caring, non-judgmental, curious, observant, amused, playful, funny, excited, inspired, creative, carefree, adequate, uplifted, stable, tenacious, energized, confident, radiant…

What makes you feel this way?

Being with friends, having good relationships, REALLY being with the kids, eating out once per week, completing courses and training, exercising, singing, volunteer work, contributing at work, taking holidays, travelling, food blogging…

What prevents you from feeling this way?

Busyness, laziness, over commitment, giving too much to others, lack of finances, staying in bed too long, not going to bed early enough, not eating well, not valuing myself, health matters, shitty planning, too much alcohol…

What are you willing to do to feel this way?

Make changes, put yourself first or at least equal, do that course, go on that retreat, journal, less screen time, more holidays, carving out one night a week to have a sit down, all in, family dinner, getting up earlier, preparing food in advance, outsourcing meals, scheduling holidays in advance…

If you want to hear my own answers to these 4 questions, you can find them on the podcast.

About the author

Michelle White offers 10 years of clinical support in the psychological and behavioural aspects of gut disorders, chronic stress and anxiety and chronic illness through gut focused therapy and embodied psychotherapy.